SO speaking the truth these days has become offensive. Everyone has become so concerned with offending someone or hurting their feelings or really just not wanting other people upset with them.
Let me first preface this by saying that your value is not based on if a person likes you or not. Your value is not determined by "other peoples" opinions of you. It's not. Value is not the number of likes you get on a Facebook post. Value is not how many Instagram followers you have. That is not value THAT is vanity. I am not saying that it doesn't feel nice to post something that tons of people "like" or super cool when people see your Instagram and want to follow you. Yeah it is cool but it does not determine your value. Now having said that... on with my blog.
I have this desire, it is like a part of my DNA, it is like this deep instinct that beckons me to it every day; get to the truth of the matter. I say things honestly and by golly people start taking offense left and right. I am appalled at the immaturity of it all. Ok so maybe not appalled but yes frankly appalled that when I am the one giving the truth that I am the one perceived as offensive. STOP TAKING OFFENSE. Listen I have posted on my Facebook page several times (it is like the warning label) "don't take offense by what I am saying because none is being given." It takes courage to be honest. I am not trying to toot my own horn. But it does take courage to tell people the truth, how it really is without sugar coating it. You have to be willing to withstand the mud they start slinging once you have voiced it (wrote it, post it, tweeted it, however you get it out there). Duck and cover because once you start being frank with people they run to there "go to" person who will tell them what they want to hear, who will walk down that pity party road holding their hand, who will allow them to wallow in the offense they have just scooped up and ran with... you know the friend I am talking about. That one who feeds into your drama. This is not a healthy reaction. Those drama feeders weigh us down. They feed on our insecurities and fuel them when we run to them in crisis. "Yeah you should be offended, how dare she say that to you? Who does she think she is, you should..." BOOM justification of our offense. Wouldn't you rather hear the friend that tells you: "Uh... you're over reacting. Don't take offense. You know she wasn't trying to hurt you. 99% of the time people aren't trying to hurt you." End of drama. OHHhhhh perhaps that is why, because then the drama would be done. And I am not talking good drama, life can be filled with positive good drama or negative drama. Positive drama will make you belly laugh so hard your drink comes out your nose.
I ask people all the time, be honest, tell me the truth. I would rather you tell me "Oh no girl you should not wear a shirt that tight," then me walk around in a shirt where everyone is thinking "Why is she wearing such a tight shirt" BECAUSE NO ONE TOLD HER THE TRUTH! Yeah that's right. When you see someone and wonder "what were they thinking..." just know that someone probable lied to them and they just don't know any better. I am not sure I can stay awake long enough to hit on that aspect of the non-truth speaking that we have all grown so accustomed to we can't stand the truth, you know, the lies. UGH that might have to be for a whole 'nother blog.
I want to give an example of what happens when someone is courageous and speaks the truth, they get set free oh and they set others free too. Like us take for instance Anna and Elsa from the movie Frozen. Anna goes to her sisters Ice Castle and approaches her with .... are you ready.... the truth. Here is the younger sister who has no special powers going into an amazing creation made by her angry older sister who does have powers, talk about intimidating. Anna has more courage in her pinky than the rest of us in our whole bodies. Then she has a choice, stay when Elsa obviously wants her to go and face offending her with the truth or turn tail and run home. (ok so you have seen the movie and you know what happens but let's just flip the coin for a moment and see what if she would've been cowardice) Ok so Anna takes the hint and decides that she better just leave her angry ice queen sister in her ice castle on her ice mountain alone so she can simmer down now. She goes back to Aerondale. Aerondale remains frozen. Anna manages to keep the others away from her sister for a while but marries Hans. Then Hans takes over ... hmmm not the Disney happy ending we all love now is it? NO instead she tells her sister the truth. "Aerondale's in deep, deep, deep, deep snow" I know what you're thinking..." But her sister froze her heart and nearly killed her" Her sister, Elsa's actions prevented her from marrying the wrong guy, helped them discover the right guy, brought them to the realization that sister love is true love, helped Elsa learn how to thaw (love) and control her powers. Life was far better after the truth set them free. So they had to go through the pain of Elsa freezing Anna to discover love. They went through that terrible time, such a short time it was in the grand scheme of things. But they went through it and got to the other side. I just don't see people taking these risks anymore.
It is so risky to be honest. To be vulnerable to the backlash of speaking your mind. "How dare you say that?" you ask? Well, I am "Daring Greatly" I want to be on the other side of the storm. I want to get through it. I want to be set free. I want that life of freedom that God so promised in the bible. How dare I not say that?!
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